Intuition and self-awareness are the ability of the mind to not only make decisions but to be aware of why those decisions are the ones being made. In essence, it’s understanding what the things are that make us tick and understanding why they do. While everyone has some sort of self-awareness, there are certain personality traits that can be indicative of poor self-awareness. These traits, if left unconfronted, can end up ruining relationships you have with people, be it in your personal or professional life. Take a look at these few indicators of poor self-awareness and see if any apply to you.
- You behave as a bully. You’re quick to put others down, especially when feeling vulnerable.
- You’re prone to being defensive. When faced with criticism, your immediate reaction is to go on the offensive to defend yourself.
- You have control issues/you micromanage. You often find yourself scrutinizing the works of others.
- You behave passive-aggressively. You easily agree to things and walk away with no intention of doing what you just agreed to.
- Your mood drastically affects your behavior. When something bothers you, it leaches into other aspects of your life, and you have a difficult time seeing how it affects your behavior.
- You’re often overambitious. You make plans or set goals that seem to surpass believable expectations as a means of appearing like everything is under control.
- You make excuses. You’re quick to blame your shortcomings on others or point fingers when something goes wrong.
If you’re reading this list and can think of one or two instances when you’ve fit these traits, fear not. Everyone experiences moments or periods of poor self-awareness. The problem comes when you look at the list and can easily think of many situations where you’ve behaved as thus. More than likely, you’re affecting the lives of the people around you. Fortunately, there are a some steps to take and habits to practice that can help you improve your intuition.
- Take a look at yourself objectively. This is much much easier said than done, and while it’s near impossible to actually be objective, it’s worth doing. The main point is to start analyzing dissecting your decisions. If this proves to be difficult, find some close acquaintances, ask them to speak candidly about you, and listen to what they tell you.
- Set goals for yourself. If you’re trying to practice self-awareness, more than likely the end goal is self-improvement. Set little, manageable goals for yourself so that you aren’t just working towards an everest of “being a better person.”
- Keep a log. As time passes, the way we remember events often becomes warped and distorted in our minds. By writing things down as they happen you can more accurately gauge how they affect you. Not only should you document the large events in your life, but if you write down little things, like sleep or food or water intake, eventually you might be able to see a pattern in your behavior and correct it accordingly.
- Review yourself. Much like the self-reviews you may have to do at work, try doing one for yourself. Think about what other people would say about the way you behave and the things you do. This lets you look at yourself from the perspective of someone else and may afford you some insight into yourself.
Self-awareness is a journey. It is by no means something that will happen overnight or even be something you’ll notice changing. But if you stick to it and put forth your best effort to become more self-aware, you’ll eventually notice the change, and odds are, others will, too.